Napaaaa

One of the best things in life is a smile...  And I think that's what we didi when we went out to the valley of nappa.  This place is situated in the hills of northern California and is full of wine yards.  We drove with a couple friend of ours and spent the day enjoying in one of the most beautiful wineries in Napa.  This one is In a form of a castle and it's called Castel de amorosa we spent all day taking pictures.  My husband was happiest and best took so many pictures of each other and he even drew a smal colorful painting for me.  And gave me as an anniversary present.  We loved the wine tasting we did in the tour and bought one ourselves.  This is a special white wine that costed us like 40$expensive but we bought it in the name of anniversary. :)  we haven't had the wine yet but the fact that we could togther go to places that I have always wanted to go was amazing.  Shubham and I are having great time these days taking trips around where he is free and not worried about anything and it's all happiness..  It beeen sixomths already and I don't know how time has flown. Seems like it was far far away...  And it been ages that we have been married.  Dsnt seem like just six months.  Another amusing thing is that unlile any other newly married couple we are not counting our months all the time. Infact it was shubham's parents who reminded us that it was our half yearly anniversary.  :)., we both just chilling and watching sholay the movie in the evening and they called on Skype and mentioned the anniversary date and congratulated us.  Only then did we feel we should do somthing about it and we should celebrate :=) .  I think since the time we have got married we are so relaxed about each other and our decision to be with each other that we don't think  about it anymore.  The big deal being married was before it really happened. But now it's like we were meant to be in this state.... So Much stress was there.. For no reason. I m glad it happened at the right time and we don't have to worry about any thing else now....

Don't sweat the small stuff, and... its all small stuff.

Don't sweat the small stuff, and... its all small stuff.



I was just listening to speaker Richard Carlson, and i am so so moved that i would like share some of the things that he mentions in his speech. He is not a powerful speaker but for sure a speaker with great thought and powerful words. I was really moved how he understands task oriented people. How through is speech he made me believe i am not the only insane, task fanatic person. He brings forth such strategies

Learn to accept more, you resist less and life flows more.

We should have more compassion for others.
We focus on little problems and concerns and blow out of proportion.instead we should have compassion about the person. other peoples issues and problems personally. We need to be kinder and gentler.

Focus on whats good.
Act of focusing on imperfection, means you are too attached to things that are wrong life instead on focusing on things which are good in life.

be less fearful
is there a fear if we are relaxed then we will be slow, but being fearful and frantic then we immobilize ourselves. not be creative. you should be with very relaxed and loving people. they will be more fulfilling at what they do.

how to develop compassion, try to put yourself in some one else's shoes.you should practice having intention and do some action about intention.

tendency to interupt people, trying to be in two minds at same time. speaking for people annoys them, start catching yourself. to be patient and wait.become more calm. people will feelgood communication is hapening. heart and pulse rate will slow down and its easy way to become nice easy person.

do things for others but dont them .
in order to get some more appreciation. we should do something without telling others. one should give for the sake of giving, the positive stays with you. the joy of giving will stay with you.

respect others ego. help other to be glorified. when some ones tells you about the achievement, do not try and tell about it. say things like tats wonderful and tell me more about that.

Learn to live in present moment. live this time. not think about the past issue. and postpone our present enjoyment.

Every one is enlightened , people here are to teach you something. we should what are they here to teach you, stop correcting others, conversational editing.

enjoy the presence of innocence. and concentrate on things that are good not how it can ruin  the moment. always see innocence in other people.

be the first one to love. others.


So filled with stimuli, i dont relax, people are no longer human being we are called human doings, we have to something, feelig of boredome changes to feeling of peace. so used to doing somthing everysecond. that i forgot to relax. simply learning the art of relaxing.

decrease the threshold for taking stress.
think you are on your death bed.
repeat to yourself life isint an emergency.

gently hold the problem in ur mind without actively trying to solve it. put problems on a back burner but dont stop the burner


tiny infants and 100 years old adults.you will get less irritated

more interested in understanding others and have less interest in others understanding you. means better listening.each  learned to understand the other, changes the feeling of irriation with compassion. better loving relationships